Love in the Times of the Internet
How much has the computer and consequently the Internet, taken over our
work place, communication, shopping, banking, research. Why not use it
for finding your partner or spouse?
I have talked with several couples who met through the Internet. They
are happily married or about to be happily married. Yet all of them
caution others about meeting through the Internet.
Years ago, when I got angry at the computer because the machine or I
made some mistakes, my husband always told me: "It is just a machine.
When you put garbage in, garbage comes out." In a way it is similar with
the Internet. It is a reflection of our society. There are good people
and bad people: wonderful, caring, nurturing, well-meaning people and at
the same time thugs, manipulators, predators, and stalkers.
Every person yearning to be in a relationship and hoping to be rescued
easily can be victimized. I was told that it is very simple to produce a
profile perfectly fitting an ad. However, this happens in real life,
too; people can fool others and lure them into unhealthy or even abusive
relationships. For example, in Anita's and Jim's chat room was a woman
who posed so well as a man, that everybody was in shock when the
deception was discovered.
So be careful before giving your real name or phone number, don't
believe everything, and be aware of what you communicate; your answer
can reveal more than you intended.
A positive thing all these Internet surfers commented about was that you
can become acquainted and actually become good friends without the
distraction of sexual tension. Some of the partners fell in love before
they actually met. They suggest going first to chat rooms related to
your interests; sports, reading, movies, e.g., before you place an ad in
the personal sections on different Internet sites. The most important
advice: Use your gut feeling!!!!!!