Romance & Money
Repairing Your Damaged Credit Past
Plan before you say "I do"
Candice in Longview, Washington:
We have dated for two years and have just become engaged. I own a home and
a small business. He has no home, no business, and a worrisome credit history
due to a bankruptcy he and his ex-wife experienced five years ago.
He is the love of my life and working hard at repairing his credit. But, are
there any precautions I should take before we get married?
Candice, you are wise to plan before you say "I do" again.
There are some steps you should take to protect yourself and
the marriage you are entering into.
Together you should draft and discuss a three, five, and
ten-year budgeting and financial goals plan. Review and revise this plan
often, at least every sixty days.
Before you co-mingle your credit (for ex: a mortgage or car)
make certain he is doing everything he can to clean his up. This can take a
couple of years. Be patient. Have him order his credit report from one of the
three repositories. For example www.experian.com (1-888-397-3742),
www.transunion.com (1-800-888-4213), or www.equifax.com (1-800-378-2732). As of
December 1, 2004 Washington residents can get one report free from each of the
This report will serve as a guide for him to know whom he
needs to contact to make amends, pay off, cancel, or dispute debts. Until he
addresses all his credit issues, you should keep your credit separate from his.
"One can never change the past, only
the hold it has on you."
Another step is to make an appointment with an attorney that
specializes in prenuptial law, and consider a prenuptial agreement that
addresses your concerns. These agreements are not at all as taboo as they once
were. They are becoming more and more acceptable as both spouses these days
generally come into a relationship with assets to protect. These are generally
for people with children from a prior marriage, a previously owned business, or
property to protect. Check with an attorney.
By protecting your good credit and reputation today, you
both will enjoy a healthier financial future tomorrow. He, too, will reap the
benefits of your proactive steps.
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